The Art of Fucking

To some extent, anal sex is still taboo in our society—at least on the surface. But go to any porn tube or have a conversation with almost any guy in college, and you’ll find that both men and women are getting fucked up the butt on a regular basis. Unfortunately, the stigmas about anal sex only support really stupid myths that scare and embarrass people: the anus is dirty, it has to hurt, and anal sex is an unnatural act. Bullshit. (image source)

DulceDeLeche’s post, “The Art of Sucking” has inspired me. Through personal experience, porn, and stories from friends, I’ve learned some tips some might find useful when it comes to the art of fucking. If done correctly, anal sex can be a fun and rewarding experience. Here’s how:

For the bottom:

Clean your butt: As this is probably the least sexy part of the process, I won’t go into great detail except to say that any method of clean up (douches) should occur several hours before the fucking is going to happen. Avoid enemas prior to sex as the inside of your asshole has a natural coating that can be washed away. Washing away that natural coating can contribute to discomfort during sex and increase the likelihood of irritation and pain.

Get to know your asshole: The first person to touch your asshole sexually should be you. First time bottoms should touch themselves and practice relaxing. If you have are familiar with the sensation, you will be less likely to tense up when a dick is near.

Relax: If you stick your finger in up to the first knuckle, you will feel 2 muscles. Allow me to introduce you to your sphincter muscles. One of these, the external sphincter at the entrance to your asshole, is readily controlled by you; this is the muscle you use to…wink. The internal sphincter is controlled by the nervous system which manages involuntary or automatic responses in the body; it can turn your ass into Fort Knox. With practice you can learn to control this muscle as well, which will drive the top crazy. To aid in relaxation, run a hot bath and take a seat.

Toys: Avoid hard plastic toys. The rectum angles up and forward; the softer, dick shaped toys are flexible enough to accommodate the shape of your body. The hard plastic toys are rigid and can cause injury if the toy play is too fast, hard and deep…and who doesn’t like fast, hard and deep? In search of good vibrations? Use a vibrating egg.

For the top: For me, fucking a guy is as much about his enjoyment as it about mine. Use these tips, and your bottom will always want you on top:

Look him directly in the eye. The connection between two guys during a fuck session is undeniable. I had a friend who said he got freaked out when he looked into his partner’s eyes during sex. Don’t be afraid. Looking at your partner doesn’t mean you’re getting married (shit, you can’t anyway); it’s simply an acknowledgment that you’re sharing yourself with another person.

Feel him up: The key to fun and healthy anal sex is a relaxed bottom. Touching your partner’s body before and during sex is really important. It may seem obvious, but there is specific reason for this. As the inner sphincter is controlled by the nervous system, applying pressure to various parts of the body can “confuse” the mind by forcing it to switch focus from protecting the booty to responding to the new pressure. My favorite points of pressure: the toes, chest, ankles, the rib cage just below the nipple, and the back of the neck. Oh…and I can’t forget about the perineum (known on the street as the TAINT). This is the area between your ass and balls. Massaging, stroking, or simply applying pressure to this area will enhance orgasm, and help ease the way for anal sex. My favorite position? The guy is on his back, one leg to the side, the toes of the other foot in my mouth, and my hand is on his chest.

Easy does it! Most guys can’t take a dick balls deep at the onset of the fuck session… I like to play with my partner’s butt before I stick it to him. I especially love making out while I finger his ass. The area around the asshole is rich with nerves and playing in this area will have your bottom begging to be fucked. Trace around the butt hole with your finger and watch what happens. When it comes to fucking, stick your dick past the first sphincter muscle and pull it out completely. Do this a couple of times. Stick it in once more and apply gentle pressure, but don’t push it in further until you get the okay.

Freestyle it! Once you’re in, experiment with angles and depth. Everyone experiences anal sex differently. Some people get off on the pressure—the full feeling; others love deep, prostate pounding sex. The key is to find what works for both people. Pay attention to your partner’s expressions, moans, and breathing. Make sure to change up your speed as well as the angle and positioning. Fucking in one position at the same speed can cause pain and irritation, and frankly it’s boring.

When thinking about levels of HIV/STD risk, unprotected anal sex is at the top of the list. Most HIV infection among gay men can be linked to receptive anal sex (bottoming). The butt, with all it's comfy and warm goodness is a perfect point of entry for HIV.

The main idea? Be attentive, be considerate, and be safe.

7 comments:

  1. BLRW says

    i think this blog is very helpful and it goes through the steps of anal sex that some people may have not known about the process. This is cute i really liked it. I think people would actually try anal sex after reading this because it makes the experience sound pleasureable.


    BLPA says

    I thinkj the info was helpful in aloit of wAYS. THE BREAKDOWN WAS VERY EDUCATIONAL AND I'LL PROBABLY TAKE NOTE OF ALOT OF THESE THINGS.


    Anonymous says

    wow this blog is very intense....my stomach clenged of the descriptions and instructions in this blog... i will say it is very informal and its very useful for those who engage or intend on engaging in these activities.


    P.A. says

    wow this blog is very intense....my stomach clenged of the descriptions and instructions in this blog... i will say it is very informal and its very useful for those who engage or intend on engaging in these activities.


    A.a-d.j says

    yea, this was sooo helpful, if ever i decide to do that i know exactly where to kome to and look. thankx so much


    Anonymous says

    This is good I guess, if you have never had anal sex before. But I need to ask who would take advice from a blog? I this professional information from a reliable source, or is it just the ideas of a self proclaimed expert.


    Leniere says

    Anony 6-19 - lots of people get advice from blogs - the concept is not new. People have been writing to newspaper columnists forever. I'm not an expert, but I know how fuck a guy without making him regret it. Some of the stuff I talk about is also aimed at reducing the physical damage that can be done if anal sex is forced. The damage: fissures, torn tissue, can be particularly dangerous when people have unprotected anal sex.


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