"Man Love"

Sometimes I think men get the short end of the stick. Per society, men have to protect their families, earn a living, stay monogamous and stay strong--all the time. Men who are emotionally present; men who freely show their emotions are viewed as less male. Emotion is part of being human but it's unofficially off limits to us. Which is why it's funny to me, when I hear the standard complaints about men: "He never talks about his feelings" or "He can't commit" or...and I love this one: "He thinks with his dick."

This is not the only time our society creates rules about a certain group and then marginalizes them for the behavior that those rules create:

Rule: Men should not have sex with men
Behavior: Men, needing to have sex with each other meet in parks, via personal ads and online. The concept of sex with a stranger is fetishized.
Judgement: Men who meet for casual sex are reckless, promiscuous, and dishonest. They're only concerned with sexual fulfillment.

The suggestion that men don't care and that the sex is meaningless is a crock of shit. Men do care. We do love. Maybe it doesn't look the way people expect. I believe nearly everything men do is about love...love of another or in the pursuit of love.

Man love came to mind after watching a YouTube video featuring Keller & Beecher from HBO's "Oz" The video is among several clips on YouTube which feature the characters showing the best and worst of their relationship set to everything from country music to R&B. Take a look



1 comments:

  1. Anton Gordon says
    June 11, 2009 at 12:23 PM  

    Well i agree on some of it cause some men then to have some of these traits but there a few out there like myself thats far from that.

    I think the rule is redundant because men should be allow to have sex with who they perfer, thats there choice.


    The behaviour is some wat true cause i know alot of people that do that.

    The judgement to me is not true i don't think is reckless


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